The Importance of Counseling.
Counseling provided by trained professionals can make a profound impact on the lives of individuals, families and communities. This service helps people navigate difficult life situations, such as the death of a loved one, divorce, natural disasters, school stress and the loss of a job.
WHY DO YOU NEED PERSONAL COUNSELING ?
Depression or Anxiety
These are the two most common general issues our clients present. Mood problems can seriously interfere with sleep, interpersonal relationships, physical health and well-being, concentration, and academic motivation. Counseling can help identify, clarify, and often even simplify problematic thoughts and feelings. When needed, we can also refer you to a psychiatrist here on campus for additional treatment with medication.
It’s often helpful to have an outside perspective or help in developing communication skills and strategies for relationships. When a break-up happens, sometimes it’s just nice to have an empathetic listener.
Social Isolation / Shyness
It can be hard to know where to turn when you feel really alone. For some of us, it is especially hard to make new connections and develop close friendships. If this is true for you, remember this is why we are here and we can help.
Life Transition Challenges
Change almost always creates some stress. It can feel overwhelming. We can help you find ways to organize and manage thoughts, feelings, activities, and time.
Eating Disorders / Body Image Issues
We offer individual assessment, counseling, and referral, along with a therapy group, for these issues, and we work collaboratively with the Student Health Center.
Actually, the problem is usually lack of motivation. When it happens, the reasons can be complex and it is hard to just “snap out of it”. Counseling can help you identify the underlying reasons for feeling unmotivated and really help you learn how to bring out your best work.
Especially when academic problems are unexpected, it may be hard to know where to go for help. Counseling Services can be a good place to clarify just what the problem is, and then get direction about specific academic support resources on campus.
Personal Counseling Services for Adults
- Individual Counseling or Personal Counseling for Adults for issues related to Low Self Confidence which is due to Over Stress , Sadness, Sorrows, Tensions, Anxiety, Business Conflicts, Family Conflicts, Work Pressure, , Anger Management and many more. (Min 1 hour session)
- Self Improvement Technics for improved performance in personal and professional life along with Self Motivation and Being Physically Healthy. (Min 1 hour session)
- Stress management is all about taking charge: of your lifestyle, thoughts, emotions, and the way you deal with problems. (Min 1 hour session)
WHY DO YOU NEED MARITAL / PRE- MARITAL COUNSELING ?
The top 13 signs when you shall need to visit a marriage counselor
1. When you aren’t talking. In all honesty, many relationship challenges are simply challenges in communication. A therapist can help facilitate new ways to communicate with each other. Once communication has deteriorated, often it is hard to get it going back in the right direction.
2. When you’re talking, but it’s always negative. Negative communication can include anything that leaves one partner feeling judged, shamed, disregarded, insecure or wanting to withdraw from the conversation. Negative communication also includes the tone of conversation because it’s not always what you say, but how you say it. Negative communication can escalate into emotional abuse as well as non-verbal communication.
3. When you’re afraid to talk. When it’s just too frightening to even bring issues up. This can be anything from sex to money, or even annoying little habits that are being blown out of proportion. A therapist’s job is to help a couple become clear about their issues and to help them understand what they are truly talking about.
4. When affection is withheld as punishment. My client Ann’s ex-husband would get angry over small things and then withhold affection (including giving her the silent treatment). If one partner starts to act as a “parent” or “punisher,” there is a lack of balance in the relationship.
5. When you see your partner as an antagonist. You and your partner are not adversaries; you are on the same team. If it begins to feel as if you are on different sides, then it’s time to seek help.
6. When you keep secrets. Each person in a relationship has a right to privacy, but when you keep secrets from each other, something isn’t right
7. When you contemplate (or are having) an affair. Fantasizing about an affair is a signal that you desire something different from what you currently have. While it is possible for a relationship to survive after one partner has had an affair, it’s prudent to get some help before that happens. If both of you are committed to the therapy process and are being honest, the marriage may be salvaged. At the very least, you may both come to realize that it is healthier for both of you to move on.
8. When you are financially unfaithful. Financial infidelity can be just as -– if not more -– damaging to a relationship than a sexual affair. If one partner keeps his or her spouse in the dark about spending or needs to control everything related to money, then the other should bring up the topic of family finances. It’s not unreasonable to say, “I want to better understand our monthly bills and budget, our debt, how many savings/checking/retirement accounts we have, etc.” If your spouse objects, consult a professional to help work out the conflict.
9. When you feel everything would be OK if he would just change. The only person you can change is yourself, so if you’re waiting for him to change, you’re going to be waiting a long time. This is often when I recommend hiring a coach or therapist to better understand who you are and what you want. Then, if challenges continue to persist, reach out to a couple’s therapist to learn better tools for relating to each other.
10. When you’re living separate lives. When couples become more like roommates than a married couple, this may indicate a need for counseling. This does not mean a couple is in trouble just because they don’t do everything together. Rather, if there is a lack of communication, conversation, intimacy or if they feel they just “co-exist,” this may indicate that it’s time to bring in a skilled clinician who can help sort out what is missing and how to get it back.
11. When your sex life has shifted significantly. It’s not unusual for sex to taper off a little after you’ve been together for a while. However, significant changes in the bedroom signal something is not right. An increase in sex, by the way, is also a sign of challenges, as it can signal one partner trying to make up for something they’re doing that they feel is wrong.
12. When you argue over the same little things over and over again. Every individual has trigger behaviors — specific things that drive them crazy that wouldn’t bother the majority of other people. This can include issues like laundry, how the dishwasher is loaded and having the same thing for dinner too often. The other partner often doesn’t understand why these fights keep happening and what he or she can do about it. A therapist can help a couple discuss these issues and figure out what the real root of the issue is.
13. When there are ongoing relationship issues. Every relationship has sticking points or those big-ticket arguments that carry over for months without any kind of resolution in sight. This includes differing views on family finances, incompatible sex drives and child rearing philosophies. These challenges feel impossible, but they can be worked out and both partners can reach a reasonable resolution. Therapists help if both parties are committed to understanding the other’s point of view and are willing to find common ground.
Personal Counseling Services for Couples
- Marriage Counseling for an improved understanding of oneself and partner along with Gaining insight into each others personality differences and expectations with learning of problem solving and conflict resolution strategies. (Min 2 hour session)
- Pre-Martial Counseling for an improved understanding of partners no known to each other or not been in a relationship before marriage. (Min 2 hour session)
- Sex Therapy for Couples with the basics of psychological basics of Sex and solving sex related issues between the couples. (Min 2 hour session)